Welcome back chain letters! Gotta love the “25 random things” trend blowing up Facebook right now- in short, you write 25 “random” facts about yourself on a “note” and tag at least 25 people, indicating that you want to know more about them and here’s their big chance! This feels like a throwback to the “send this email to 50 people in the next 24 hours or your first born child will have a facial mole in the shape of massive fart” forwards I used to get back in the day. I remember being mystified by their existence, not to mention survival and successful propagation.
While my initial response was surprise at this apparent regression, I realized that the 25RTAM lists, particularly within the Facebook context, have the allure of ambiguity, something that’s at risk when communication technologies allow people to say what they want to who they want when they want in a variety of formats.
The personal/impersonal duality of these lists makes them attractive to people who may not want to deal with one-on-one communication or, more importantly, to those who don’t know if target recipients want to deal with them one-on-one. Despite the impersonal usage of notes (a private tool as opposed to a wall post that everyone in your network sees) as a broadcast tool, 25RTAM lists also have personal layers. 1) You’re communicating within your network 2) you’re only tagging some of your contacts from that network and 3) instructions to tag someone to show them you’re interested in learning more about them, personally, and all the other people you tagged, personally…sort of. Though SNS’ and such are commonly understood as vehicles that allow people to connect more, I think that in a lot of social situations, ambiguity and non-commitment is a welcome relief. These lists are both responses and requests, another duality that excuses the publisher from making a real statement about their intentions. “someone else requested I do this,” and “my request to you is required by the ‘game’ we’re playing here” are valid and built-in excuses for publishers who want to share and have others share but aren’t sure if everyone’s on the same page.
While I’m not going to jump on board here, I think I understand a little through my own use of technology and its culturally acceptable standards to avoid social clarity when it’s convenient. Gotta keep ‘em guessing.
ohhh, look at you, spamming attention whoring wretch!!
piss off!